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Sometimes the little things turn out to be the big things

Published April 10, 2012 by Dreamreflector

Every time I have driven the motorway between my home town and our capital Helsinki, I have gone into a childlike state of utter cheerfulness at a specific point. For as long as I can remember, an old spruce, has grown in the berm. It was not an ordinary spruce: thanks to some sort of infection, its treetop had grown into a huge ball. I had given the tree a well-fitting nick name “Pallo kuusi” (meaning “the ball spruce”). I have always found it so funny and encouraging at the same time, that such a freak of nature could keep on living. How ever I had never even dared to guess, that some one else might have noticed it, not to mention found it as intriguing as I did.

Today as I was browsing some articles in the website of a local paper, I found something. It was shocking at first, then incredibly touching. An article titled “Moottoritien maamerkki on poissa” (meaning “the landmark of the motorway is gone”). The ball in the treetop had snapped of for it was two heavy -no wonder as the balls diameter was close to two meters :O

At first I was so shocked and sad to hear the faith of my beloved tree. But then I realised something else.

Firstly that someone had actually written an article about that tree! I was not the only one who had noticed. Not at all.

Secondly having scrolled to the end of the article I looked at the comments. There were hundreds and hundreds of them! People commenting on how much they loved the poor tree. “I knew right away having read the headline that it was about the ball spruce. I had a really deep connection to it. Rest in peace.” That person even had the same nick name for the tree ^^

By now everyone’s probably wondering what’s the big idea in all this, right? Any one feel like I’m a delusional hippy? Well I do have a point! And here it is: YOU MIGHT FEEL LIKE NO ONE CARES ABOUT YOU,  ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL, ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK, MAYBE YOU FEEL LIKE NO ONE CARES A COW’S BEHIND ABOUT IF YOU EVEN EXIST. BUT I AM HERE TO TELL YOU TODAY, THAT IT IS NOT TRUE! YOU MIGHT NOT SEE PEOPLE NOTICING OR CARING ABOUT YOU BUT EVEN IF YOU DON’T IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT THEY ARE NOT THERE. THEY ARE THERE. SOME ONE IS ALWAYS THERE. YOU REMEMBER THAT.

Sorry about the shouting there, I had to make sure that if people get bored they’ll at least spot the most important bit C:

Anyway, there’s nothing more to say than Rest in peace Ball spruce <3

Pallokuusi jökötti paikallaan vuosikymmeniä.

And a dream quote: “All [wo]men dream but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity; but the dreamers of the day are dangerous [wo]men, for they may act their dream with open eyes to make it possible.” ^^

Don’t settle for less than you deserve!

Published March 29, 2012 by Dreamreflector

I got really inspired by the comment Kunai27 leaved on my previous post, so I decided to take my stand on the subject in this post, so it would give encouragement to more people C:

Kunai27 wrote: “I wouldn’t say you have strange preferences, believe me I try to hold myself to some standards too, I try to be a great guy, but the women I’ve been with have never made me feel “attractive,” I’ve only been told that, and as much as I try to be easy on the standards I have for a relationship I do think I have low ones, even my last relationship I knew she had a history with recreational drugs, but all I knew was she had smoked pot, it always makes me uneasy but I figured at least pot is organic, then one night she just abandons me in a bar to go do cocaine. Didn’t do well for my self-esteem either knowing she was only using me as a sex object, but I read what you write and it reminds me to stay hopeful, it reminds me that yeah maybe I too should stand up for myself and have “strange preferences” maybe then I’d have a quality relationship that lasts and is based on something truly wonderful, I say stay strange, stay you…”

Kunai27 It’s time to decide that you deserve better than the likes of the woman you described!

The most common mistake we do, is settling for something less than we deserve. We all do it, myself included. We fear we’ll never get what we need anyway, or just think that a mediocre relationship is better than no relationship at all. But see, I have decided that I am not going to settle for mediocre, because that will never make me happy. There are times when it feels hard to choose being alone over mediocre dates with mediocre men, but why waste your time on something you know is not the right thing for you, is not going to last, and most importantly deep down isn’t what you want at all.

Of course some might argue that I’ll get nothing if I just sit here and daydream about perfection. And you’re absolutely right. But here’s the key: You have to know what will satisfy you, and then go get it. And the pivotal point here is, that when you have visualised exactly what you want, you will know exactly when a person is not going to satisfy you and you will know exactly when to stop wasting time on people who you know won’t make you happy.

So think through what you need, where you’re willing to compromise and how greatly and then stick to it. When you notice a person does not have what you need, DO NOT SETTLE for them! We all deserve more than mediocre, and we’ll all get more, if we’re just determened enough! I’ve had some really rough times in my humble lifetime, and they’re not entirely behind me either to be honest, but that hasn’t stopped me from making the desicion that I deserve to be happy.

A dream quote for today: “The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score. ” :D

Remember, You too deserve to be happy! ^^