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Don’t settle for less than you deserve!

Published March 29, 2012 by Dreamreflector

I got really inspired by the comment Kunai27 leaved on my previous post, so I decided to take my stand on the subject in this post, so it would give encouragement to more people C:

Kunai27 wrote: “I wouldn’t say you have strange preferences, believe me I try to hold myself to some standards too, I try to be a great guy, but the women I’ve been with have never made me feel “attractive,” I’ve only been told that, and as much as I try to be easy on the standards I have for a relationship I do think I have low ones, even my last relationship I knew she had a history with recreational drugs, but all I knew was she had smoked pot, it always makes me uneasy but I figured at least pot is organic, then one night she just abandons me in a bar to go do cocaine. Didn’t do well for my self-esteem either knowing she was only using me as a sex object, but I read what you write and it reminds me to stay hopeful, it reminds me that yeah maybe I too should stand up for myself and have “strange preferences” maybe then I’d have a quality relationship that lasts and is based on something truly wonderful, I say stay strange, stay you…”

Kunai27 It’s time to decide that you deserve better than the likes of the woman you described!

The most common mistake we do, is settling for something less than we deserve. We all do it, myself included. We fear we’ll never get what we need anyway, or just think that a mediocre relationship is better than no relationship at all. But see, I have decided that I am not going to settle for mediocre, because that will never make me happy. There are times when it feels hard to choose being alone over mediocre dates with mediocre men, but why waste your time on something you know is not the right thing for you, is not going to last, and most importantly deep down isn’t what you want at all.

Of course some might argue that I’ll get nothing if I just sit here and daydream about perfection. And you’re absolutely right. But here’s the key: You have to know what will satisfy you, and then go get it. And the pivotal point here is, that when you have visualised exactly what you want, you will know exactly when a person is not going to satisfy you and you will know exactly when to stop wasting time on people who you know won’t make you happy.

So think through what you need, where you’re willing to compromise and how greatly and then stick to it. When you notice a person does not have what you need, DO NOT SETTLE for them! We all deserve more than mediocre, and we’ll all get more, if we’re just determened enough! I’ve had some really rough times in my humble lifetime, and they’re not entirely behind me either to be honest, but that hasn’t stopped me from making the desicion that I deserve to be happy.

A dream quote for today: “The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score. ” :D

Remember, You too deserve to be happy! ^^


Winter invasion

Published February 19, 2012 by Dreamreflector

Today I have a lot of work to do. I have to do my maths assignment and clean and cook and go for a jog and stretch and study biology and practise my singing and… Well you get the point. Somehow it seems that the more I have to do, the less I feel like doing it. And then when I don’t want to do the things I’m supposed to I automatically start to do something else entirely. :D I wonder if anyone else has the same problem. So today I have clipped my nails and done some daydreaming. And I have done none of the things I have to do.

I decided that I would do something somewhat useful as to convince myself that this time won’t go to waste. Therefore I thought I’d write you a blog post C: And for myself too, really, since I get so much from writing this blog. It truly is helpful to have something to channel my mind into. I mean into something that I actually enjoy.

So yesterday, we went to our summer cottage to see if everything was fine there. Since no one had been there after summer we had to walk a few hundred meters in knee-high unbeaten snow. It was pretty tiring I have to say :D But exercise is always good for you. The summer cottage was still standing proud -for the ramshackle little thing that it is, at least. The temperature inside was chilly and everything was covered with frost and ice crystals :D I found it rather beautiful. Maybe it was because of the fact that I had never seen frost inside the cottage before or the fact that I am so in love with that familiar little cabin, but I felt so happy skittering about in there with my camera. It was a place of quiet solitude and misunderstood beauty. The winter had invaded it and I followed.

Here are a few eyefuls for you to see, reflected through my camera lens:

The windows were completely covered with ice crystals

The ceiling and the wall of the summer cottage Sauna, looking frosty.

The tap of the Sauna. It lies above the sauna stove, on a container that holds water, so that the stove warms it nicely. Now there was no sign of warmth :D

The shower head, which is never in use :D

And the alternative method for the shower, a vat and a ladle. Rustic, I know. The water of course had frozen solid.

The ceiling in the living room, also coated in frost

A frosty door frame. Note the lavender coloured ceiling <3 It’s bold and it’s proud and I simply LOVE it!

A frosty pole on the fireplace, which is bright red as you may see C:

A few boxes in the bookshelf. And again everything’s embroided with ice crystals.

And finally a tribute to the decoration :D It’s not modern it’s not luxuries but it’s full of personality and it suits the place.

That’s how you should think about yourself too! You’re look is perfect as long as it matches who you are and you carry it off with pride. Never try to hide who you are or change yourself because some one doesn’t like your style. It’s their problem not yours, you are made perfect C:

Today’s dream quote: “There are no rules of architecture for a castle in the clouds.” <3

Be the best you can be – YOU! C: