I got really inspired by the comment Kunai27 leaved on my previous post, so I decided to take my stand on the subject in this post, so it would give encouragement to more people C:
Kunai27 wrote: “I wouldn’t say you have strange preferences, believe me I try to hold myself to some standards too, I try to be a great guy, but the women I’ve been with have never made me feel “attractive,” I’ve only been told that, and as much as I try to be easy on the standards I have for a relationship I do think I have low ones, even my last relationship I knew she had a history with recreational drugs, but all I knew was she had smoked pot, it always makes me uneasy but I figured at least pot is organic, then one night she just abandons me in a bar to go do cocaine. Didn’t do well for my self-esteem either knowing she was only using me as a sex object, but I read what you write and it reminds me to stay hopeful, it reminds me that yeah maybe I too should stand up for myself and have “strange preferences” maybe then I’d have a quality relationship that lasts and is based on something truly wonderful, I say stay strange, stay you…”
Kunai27 It’s time to decide that you deserve better than the likes of the woman you described!
The most common mistake we do, is settling for something less than we deserve. We all do it, myself included. We fear we’ll never get what we need anyway, or just think that a mediocre relationship is better than no relationship at all. But see, I have decided that I am not going to settle for mediocre, because that will never make me happy. There are times when it feels hard to choose being alone over mediocre dates with mediocre men, but why waste your time on something you know is not the right thing for you, is not going to last, and most importantly deep down isn’t what you want at all.
Of course some might argue that I’ll get nothing if I just sit here and daydream about perfection. And you’re absolutely right. But here’s the key: You have to know what will satisfy you, and then go get it. And the pivotal point here is, that when you have visualised exactly what you want, you will know exactly when a person is not going to satisfy you and you will know exactly when to stop wasting time on people who you know won’t make you happy.
So think through what you need, where you’re willing to compromise and how greatly and then stick to it. When you notice a person does not have what you need, DO NOT SETTLE for them! We all deserve more than mediocre, and we’ll all get more, if we’re just determened enough! I’ve had some really rough times in my humble lifetime, and they’re not entirely behind me either to be honest, but that hasn’t stopped me from making the desicion that I deserve to be happy.
A dream quote for today: “The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score. ” :D
Remember, You too deserve to be happy! ^^