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Spotted: A bridge I love

Published September 11, 2012 by Dreamreflector

This is the bridge I was talking about in the previous post. It is pretty small, but that’s how I like it ^^ I love the railings too, and I love how the nearby weeping willow sort of envelops it C:

Here you can see the bridge in hole… well almost :D I quite like it

The view from the bridge is green to say the least. The view from the other side is to the lake, so it has less greenery. I don’t have a photo of that side though.

The bridge was pretty crowded too. I usually try to keep people out of the photos but could not resist the opportunity to snap a photo of this couple on their afternoon jog. It really is a wonderful place to go out with a sweetheart if you have one ^^ I kept the couple pretty blurry on purpose, to respect their privacy.

A dream quote for today: “All we need to do is listen carefully to the messages and follow our dreams. It is in our dreams that we find our true identities and where our destiny awaits.”

My next post will probably feature some photos of the nearby green ^^ Such a beautiful place. I’m not sure when I’ll be able to write it though, because the internet of course does not agree with me :/

More about my Juhannus

Published June 24, 2012 by Dreamreflector

I promised more photos from our Finnish Juhannus, so here they are C:

The encounter with this little mink was totally unexpected. We both froze for a few seconds, but luckily I managed to fiddle the camera to take this photo before the guy came back to his senses and swam away. He too had a nice Midsummer feast coming up, at least judging by that poor duck.

The Yellow Irises were in full bloom on Juhannus. The bright yellow colour made a reflection to the surface of the lake too C:

This is a part of a tiny island we saw while boating. The islands terrain is like this all around, which is probably why the island is known as “Kallio Saari” -Cliff Island. It’s area is less than a kilometer, and it only has one summer cottage, meaning that the person owning the cottage, has the whole island to themselves. Pretty nice?

These Water Striders had it going on. And to be fair, Juhannus is for many, a time to drink, hook up with a hot hunk and have feverish animalistic sex. Not for me though :D At least not yet.

The Midsummer night is traditionally a night of love and magic. Flowers are tucked under pillows in the hopes of seeing one’s future spouse, women stand around wells, lakes, and ponds, nude, hoping to see they’re future husband on the surface of the water, and perhaps most extremely, a woman must go to a crossroads with three ways, stand in the middle of the crossroads, remove all her clothes, and then sweep a portion of each three ways. It is believed, that by doing so, the woman is making way for her future husband, who will then come to her. There are many many more tricks to be done on Juhannus night, but many of them are not commonly used of course :D How ever the flowers under the pillow is something I’ve done every year since I can remember, the husband is yet to be seen, but it is great fun!

A dream quote (well, sort of) for today, fitted for the Juhannus nights spirit of love: “Dream of me,” he said. “Dream of you? I’m doing that while I’m awake.”  Oh, how true ;)

Don’t settle for less than you deserve!

Published March 29, 2012 by Dreamreflector

I got really inspired by the comment Kunai27 leaved on my previous post, so I decided to take my stand on the subject in this post, so it would give encouragement to more people C:

Kunai27 wrote: “I wouldn’t say you have strange preferences, believe me I try to hold myself to some standards too, I try to be a great guy, but the women I’ve been with have never made me feel “attractive,” I’ve only been told that, and as much as I try to be easy on the standards I have for a relationship I do think I have low ones, even my last relationship I knew she had a history with recreational drugs, but all I knew was she had smoked pot, it always makes me uneasy but I figured at least pot is organic, then one night she just abandons me in a bar to go do cocaine. Didn’t do well for my self-esteem either knowing she was only using me as a sex object, but I read what you write and it reminds me to stay hopeful, it reminds me that yeah maybe I too should stand up for myself and have “strange preferences” maybe then I’d have a quality relationship that lasts and is based on something truly wonderful, I say stay strange, stay you…”

Kunai27 It’s time to decide that you deserve better than the likes of the woman you described!

The most common mistake we do, is settling for something less than we deserve. We all do it, myself included. We fear we’ll never get what we need anyway, or just think that a mediocre relationship is better than no relationship at all. But see, I have decided that I am not going to settle for mediocre, because that will never make me happy. There are times when it feels hard to choose being alone over mediocre dates with mediocre men, but why waste your time on something you know is not the right thing for you, is not going to last, and most importantly deep down isn’t what you want at all.

Of course some might argue that I’ll get nothing if I just sit here and daydream about perfection. And you’re absolutely right. But here’s the key: You have to know what will satisfy you, and then go get it. And the pivotal point here is, that when you have visualised exactly what you want, you will know exactly when a person is not going to satisfy you and you will know exactly when to stop wasting time on people who you know won’t make you happy.

So think through what you need, where you’re willing to compromise and how greatly and then stick to it. When you notice a person does not have what you need, DO NOT SETTLE for them! We all deserve more than mediocre, and we’ll all get more, if we’re just determened enough! I’ve had some really rough times in my humble lifetime, and they’re not entirely behind me either to be honest, but that hasn’t stopped me from making the desicion that I deserve to be happy.

A dream quote for today: “The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score. ” :D

Remember, You too deserve to be happy! ^^

And they walked off into the sunset…

Published February 25, 2012 by Dreamreflector

People who have read this blog before may know, that one of my biggest dreams is to find a soul mate. Well actually, to be honest, I don’t really believe in soul mates. But rather, I believe that there are several people who could be soul mates, and it’s just a matter of finding one of those. But any way, today, right now actually, one of my daydreams from the love sector came to my mind. The dream about walking off into the sunset with some one special C:

I have seen countless sunsets, and I really think they are one of the most beautiful, yet simply romantic things there are. And to know, that they are purely the work of nature! Amazing. Sunsets are so dreamy. I dream of walking hand in hand on a beach at sunset. And about sitting close to some one at the end of a pier, with our feet dangling over the edge and into the water. And of course, about kissing under an old oak tree, listening to the birds quiet down, and falling a sleep, my head on his chest.

Here are a few sunset pictures by me C:

I really really hope I won’t have to walk into the sunset alone C:

This is a beautiful song fitted to the theme, “Grab the Sunset” by Hundreds http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8pDVGuXkHwA. It’s not the most cheery of songs, in fact one might interpret it rather darkly, but I find it mysteriously intriguing.

And a dream quote for today: “Everything starts as somebody’s daydream.” <3

Gaze in to the sunset! C: